Traditional approaches such as rewards, competition and authority, force children with learning difficulties into a deadlock.
hey bring about an outer motivation that is limited in time and encourages only those with an inner motivation.
children who learn because they are rewarded for doing so tend to stop when they stop being rewarded and competition encourages only those who have a chance at winning.
The others don’t even try and don't forget that in a competition there is only one winner and many losers,
whose motivation will decline as soon as the competition ends. ..
Children, who learn only because they are threatened, develop negative feelings such as anger, and these feelings prevent creative thinking.
These children will stop making an effort when they are no longer frightened by the threats.
 
The goal of progressive approaches to motivation is to create within the children an inner motivation that stems from involvement,
cooperation and positive feelings that allow creativity and perseverance over time.
 
1. Adopt the habit of analyzing successes – Children with learning disabilities or ADD experience a lot of failures.
Each additional failure enhances their lack of confidence and reduces the level of expectations of the environment from these children.
This is detrimental to their feeling of personal capability.
Each success and achievement will raise their self confidence and the level of expectations of the environment,
n the condition that the child feels that the success is attributed to him. With this goal in mind,
t's important to analyze each success, no matter how small, and to ask the question, what was your (the child's) part in the success?
 
2. Encourage arguments, don't fear confrontation – as in physics, people also aspire to a balance.
when that balance is endangered, we try everything to restore it.
when you provoke and argument, the child's reaction will be to try everything to convince you he is right.
In order to do that, it will be necessary for him to understand what he's talking about and for that, he'll need to study, investigate and learn.
 
3. Observe the child's areas of interest and enjoyment and try to understand which needs do they cater to.
Does he play football because of his friends or because he wants to be a leader?
Does he play on the computer because he needs instant gratification or because of curiosity?
Try to fulfill these needs in the learning process: A child who needs to be a leader, have him lead a project.
A child who needs a social atmosphere, encourage him to study in a group, etc.
 
4. Ensure that the child has enough time for play, listening to music and sports. Research in positive psychology  shows that a child's level of productivity and motivation grow when he has at least three times more positive experiences than negative ones. An intense amount of activities, including special help for learning disabilities, such as remedial learning, horse-back riding and others, don't leave the child enough time to collect positive experiences, which are supposed to help him cope with failure at learning and social difficulties.
Permanent, scheduled activities that the child enjoys will impact his/her motivation and level of success.

These four options will only be effective if the child feels that you accept him for himself and are standing by him.
The more we learn to listen to him and to what he really needs the easier it will be for him to cope with the challenges of his life.